Knowing what to do when your loved one resists senior care is tough, and the time has arrived for difficult conversations. Losses of any kind are hard, and senior citizens are dealing with a lot. They have much less independence, physical and mental agility, and some of their friends and relatives have probably died. Now they’re faced with the possibility of moving to a strange place with new people and new routines. It’s a lot to take in, and developing a checklist will help you.
Analyze What Kind Of Assistance Is Needed
Look at the situation; what kind of senior care does your loved one need? What ways exist to meet these needs? How much do they cost, and how much funding is available? This is a good time to bring other family members into the conversation.
Talk With Your Loved One
Discuss the situation several times with your loved one when you will not be interrupted and when you’re both in good frames of mind. Don’t wait too long, though. Talk about what your loved one wants, and if you think some avenues are not possible, allow your loved one to try to develop solutions anyway. If what he or she suggests is simply not practical, explain why in gentle, non-blaming language. Say you’d like to come up with a solution that works for both of you.
Make it about you—not about your loved one. For example: “Mom, I can’t function well at work because I’m worried all the time that the house might burn down.”
Just getting a loved one to consider in-home senior care home is a great step. You could say something like: “Your life is your own, but it would ease my mind if you would at least try a caregiver for a day or two. Can you indulge me?”